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You have been sitting unknowingly on top of a secret basement. You were manipulated, questioning yourself and the relationship you believed you had with your partner because you did not know what the real reality of your relationship was. Then one day you discovered that your gut feeling that something was off was true, and suddenly you had the proof in front of you. You are now facing a massive betrayal that goes beyond imagination, because it shakes the very foundation of your relationship and with it the feeling of being safe in this world.

You are standing at the beginning of a profound change process, and I am here to walk with you through every step that needs to be taken. I will carry the hope for you when it feels like there is no hope left for you, your partner, or your relationship. I will offer you the tools and the compassion you need to move through this deep rupture in your life and in your relationship. I will sit with you in the uncertainty of what comes next and help you make the decisions that lie ahead.

Creating a safe home for the hurt souls so they can shine from within 

Where we are going to meet

After several years in business, I realized something was missing. I left to study psychology — a field that had always fascinated me — and never looked back.

Following university, I deepened my knowledge independently, which led me to Virginia Satir’s work. Her approach resonated deeply, and I began formal training and participation in the Virginia Satir Global Network. I went on to work with children, adolescents, and families in Germany, developing a family therapy-oriented practice.

In 2013, I relocated to Argentina, where I started a family of my own. When that relationship ended, I found myself doing the hard work of understanding what makes relationships truly function — attachment, safety, and repair.

That personal journey intersected with my professional one when a colleague invited me to co-facilitate a men’s group for betrayers. This work introduced me to Dr. Minwalla and his model, built over 20 years of working with betrayers and betrayed partners. I joined his first professional training cohort in 2022 and trained with him for two years — work that profoundly changed how I show up for clients.

Today, I specialize in sex addiction and betrayal trauma. After nearly 20 years as a psychologist, this is where I’ve found my place — helping couples build relationships grounded in safety, honesty, and real intimacy.

a little of my story

d.o.

"He Holds Space for Both Partners"

I

I’ve known Gundolf for over 15 years through our Virginia Satir training, and I’ve worked alongside him with clients navigating betrayal and infidelity. What stands out is his ability to hold space for both partners. He helps the person who caused the harm take responsibility while supporting the betrayed partner in finding their voice and stability. Gundolf is thoughtful, professional, and deeply committed to the people he works with.

NO

Also I was born in Germany and grew up in that culture, I am not very typical. I really don’t like beer to start with, I like to give hugs and not only shake hands and keep the other person at a distance, I have a lot of humor and I love to laugh. 

typical German 

Not the

Beyond the Therapy Room

Besides growing up in Germany I have spent quite some significant time in the USA and had a chance through an exchange program to dive into their culture as I was staying in a family.

I did my training in family therapy in the USA and Canada, so there was another possibility to understand the culture on a deeper level. And last but not least I am living now for over 10 years in Argentina, a very different culture than the german and the US one. All of that helped me to be curious about cultures, families and people. 

experiences

Cultural 

Beyond the Therapy Room

I always liked business (probably because my father was a banker so we had a lot of conversations at our dinner table about business) but it never gave me a deep satisfaction. That changed when I decided to study psychology.

I found something that fascinates me till this day. I really found my passion and gift when I got connected to the Minwalla model, as he was showing me a missing piece in my work (traumabase, attachment, addiction and how our behavior is driven by the deeper layers of our upbringing). 

passion

Found my

Beyond the Therapy Room

Through my work with betrayers, betrayed partners and the betrayed relationships, I learned that there is a huge need for information on what is going on with the betrayal and the trauma. I started to take courage and to write the posts for my blog.

I started to feel like I have a voice with all the information that I have collected over the almost 20 years of being a psychologist now. And I know I am reaching people with that, that I do not see in my private practice. 

of my way

Getting out 

Beyond the Therapy Room

When I finished school I originally wanted to become an architect. I had the idea of learning business and then going to university. My path changed a little bit but I still love architecture and I am still fascinated by good design.

A couple years ago I answered a friend's question, "What do I do for living?” in the following way:“ I am an architect that builds houses for the souls”. I still see myself that way. And I love beautiful designed houses! 

About being an architect

Beyond the Therapy Room

the world stopped moving, the complete shutdown invited me to start working remotely, my dear friend invited me to facilitate a men’s group for betrayers with him - I got introduced to the world of betrayal trauma and sex addiction - and got hooked to it

2020 / 

Moved to Argentina, got married and became a father; I started working with individuals and couples in my own private practice 

2013 / 

Finished University as a Psychologist and started working in private organizations with children and adolescents; I also started training in family therapy with Virginia Satir, founder of family therapy in the USA

2004 / 

I decided to stop working, ask for government loan to start studying psychology - one of my best decisions in terms of my life 

1998/

Finished school, trained in Business and worked for some years in housemanagement and in between did my social year in an AIDS project

1992 / 

YEARS

Through the

I started the two year training with Dr. Minwalla and became a DST Professional; in the meantime I also started to study attachment theory, trauma and addiction; I implemented all of it into my professional work

2022 / 

I am working mostly with betrayers and betrayed partners and the betrayed relationships - a work that I really love, especially when I can see the change unfolding in front of my eyes and the people that have been in pain and trauma becoming safe people for each other

TODAY

You have found a place where you can land and even if you don’t have hope at this moment, I will hold it for you and I will guide you through the process so that you can reconnect with yours.

I have a very clear understanding of what is happening when the betrayed partner is activated and responses in trauma, because I look at it from the neurological perspective - and from that place almost all of your reactions make sense. I also look at it from a systemic point of view, so I can help the betrayer (and with that the betrayed partner) to find responses that are building safety in the partner and in the relationship. 

I am holding space for both of you and together we are working towards healing the relationship by creating safety for both of you but especially for the betrayed partner. The betrayer will learn how to be honest, transparent and how to deeply connect with his partner, maybe for the first time in their relationship. 

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Sarah Leeland

Certified Sex Addiction Therapist-Supervisor with more than 15 years of experience helping individuals and couples heal from addiction, betrayal trauma, and relational disconnection. He is the founder and clinical director of Novus Mindful Life Institute in Long Beach, California, and the founder and host of The Addicted Mind podcast and Shame to Resilience podcast. 

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Certified Sex Addiction Therapist-Supervisor with more than 15 years of experience helping individuals and couples heal from addiction, betrayal trauma, and relational disconnection. He is the founder and clinical director of Novus Mindful Life Institute in Long Beach, California, and the founder and host of The Addicted Mind podcast and Shame to Resilience podcast. 

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Duane Osterlind

Certified Sex Addiction Therapist-Supervisor with more than 15 years of experience helping individuals and couples heal from addiction, betrayal trauma, and relational disconnection. He is the founder and clinical director of Novus Mindful Life Institute in Long Beach, California, and the founder and host of The Addicted Mind podcast and Shame to Resilience podcast. 

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I want you to know that you are not a broken person. You have behaviors that hurt yourself and your partner and together we are exploring where they are coming from and how you can change them into healthy ones. 

For the Betrayer

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You have been exposed to and you are experiencing the effects of deep relational trauma. You are not crazy and you are not depressed, your body is reacting with a trauma response and it is a healthy response for the reality that you are facing. Let me walk with you through this devastating time. 

For the Betrayed Partner

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If you look at the past of your relationship and you do not know what is real and what has happened to your partner and your relationship and it feels like your whole world has just collapsed. Let me help both of you to navigate through the pain, anger, mistrust, shame and chaos that you are experiencing, towards a relationship that is built on honesty, safety, transparency and where both of you have their voice and vote in it. 

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