Betrayal deeply shatters the relationship and the two people that are forming it. The trauma that the betrayal produces is real and needs to be addressed and taken care of.
Whether you are the partner who has been betrayed and trying to understand what happened, or the one who caused the harm and tries to heal and repair the damage, or you come as the couple trying to find a way to make it through this indescribable reality and you are trying to figuring out how to be in a safe and functioning relationship after all of this, you are all welcomed.
The healing begins when we turn the lights on and name, turn towards, sit with and deal with the reality of the betrayal. It requires honesty and courage to do so. I hold the space for this process, so that you can do your healing and repair work.
Restoring the Home Within
An Architecture for the Soul
I am a psychologist trained in family therapy within the Virginia Satir tradition. My work is grounded in a humanistic approach and the belief that healing happens when we gain new understanding of ourselves and our experiences. I trust that my clients already have the capacity for change—my role is to create the space where that can emerge.
In 2022, my training in betrayal trauma and deceptive sexuality with Dr. Minwalla shaped my clinical approach. I view trauma as the foundation of many relational patterns, and I hold a structured, respectful space where clients can face difficult truths and move toward meaningful change.
Betrayal Trauma Therapy for Couples and Individuals
I’m Gundolf
R & P
“Gundolf essentially saved us "
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Gundolf essentially saved us when betrayal caused our marriage to hit rock bottom. He is a great listener, extremely compassionate, non judgmental and a skilled trauma informed practitioner.
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N. K. (betrayer)
“Finding Gundolf was a turning point in my life."
II
The warmth and non-judgemental understanding he brought into the room made me feel seen, supported and safe to face the aftermath of the betrayal that I have been exposed to.
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“He helped me to become honest with myself and my partner."
III
His approach helped me understand the deep rupture that my actions have produced within my relationship.
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I work with couples navigating through betrayal, deceptive sexuality, and relational trauma. I guide them through the necessary disclosure and afterwards through the process of eating the big elephant in the room, so that they slowly over time can restore safety and rebuild trust in their relationship.
Each path is approached with respect, clarity, and compassion, so that we can build together a new way of relating.
Couples
I guide individuals who want to take responsibility for their actions, through the whole process of the disclosure and the mountain work and their personal iceberg work, so that they understand their behavior and the impact on the partner, and with that start engaging in meaningful, integrity-based and relational behaviors with their partner.
Betrayers
I provide trauma-informed support for betrayed partners, focusing on stabilization, validation, and adequate safety so that they can metabolize the reality and with that reconstruct and reclaim personal and relational agency.
Betrayed Partners
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What my process looks like
You have found a place where you can land and even if you don’t have hope at this moment, I will hold it for you and I will guide you through the process so that you can reconnect with yours.
I have a very clear understanding of what is happening when the betrayed partner is activated and responses in trauma, because I look at it from the neurological perspective - and from that place almost all of your reactions make sense. I also look at it from a systemic point of view, so I can help the betrayer (and with that the betrayed partner) to find responses that are building safety in the partner and in the relationship.
I am holding space for both of you and together we are working towards healing the relationship by creating safety for both of you but especially for the betrayed partner. The betrayer will learn how to be honest, transparent and how to deeply connect with his partner, maybe for the first time in their relationship.
What we Do
THE HEART BEHIND
If you are ready to take the next step, I invite you to send me a message. I will schedule an initial session with you.
This is a space for clarity, safety, and hope with what has happened—and what feels impossible to move forward. And yet, it is possible! Reach out to me so I can guide you through this difficult time in your life.
Ready to begin your healing journey?
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